Insights from Caring Counselling

Welcome to our blog, where we share valuable insights into how counselling works and how it can help you on your journey. At Caring Counselling, I believe that "caring is what I do, and sharing is what will help you through." Explore our articles and discover how we can support you.

Understanding counselling: Your first step

4th April 2026 Blog #1

Are you curious about counselling but unsure where to start? This section explores the fundamental principles of counselling, what to expect in a session, and how it can provide a safe space for personal growth and healing. We aim to demystify the process and answer your initial questions.

One of the major natural characteristics that a counsellor should have is the ability to LISTEN.

 

Listening to someone is VERY different from hearing someone, and not many people know that.

When you are reading this, have you ever had a conversation with someone where you have had to stop yourself and ask them, "Are you listening to me?" and they promptly reply, "YES, I heard you!!"

Well, you have probably realised that it is not the same thing.

Listening is very different to hearing.

  • Hearing is passive and happens without trying.
  • Listening is active and needs focus and effort.

If you are not listening to others or being listened to, it can negatively affect your sense of connection and belonging. Many of us have experienced moments where we felt unheard. Those times can leave us feeling undervalued, uncared for, and quite alone. It's understandable how these feelings can lead to emotions like shame, anxiety, and depression.

(https://www.verywellmind.com/hearing-vs-listening-what-s-the-difference-5196734)

 

What should you look for in a good counsellor?

Active Listening

Listening is one of the major qualities your counsellor should have.

  • Mental Health Silence: A 2025 survey by Mind found that 21% of adults feel like no one will truly understand them, which serves as a significant barrier to speaking about their mental health.

If the public is feeling like this, then there is a chance that they feel that no one listens to them.

This is where counselling comes in. Although we get training to listen to clients, the majority of trainee counsellors are naturals at listening.

 

Typically, listening is considered to involve both hearing and interpretation. It is a vital life skill, and it is how we have conversations with each other. The problem lies with the content of that conversation, an example being our mental health and "feelings".

If you feel that life is overwhelming and you need someone to "listen", then I am here for you.

Next week I will explain what happens when you come to counselling and what to expect with me.